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Read with Chai #1

 Hello everyone! Back very soon just as I promised. I guess you are surprised seeing the title and are wondering what exactly it means. Well, if you’ve known me in real life you know I have loved reading and writing my whole life. But reading often took a backseat whenever other commitments became a priority. Younger Chai would be absolutely fuming if she knew I had stopped reading books for years altogether. I still remember begging my mom to take me to the library as and when she could when I was younger. Some of the best memories I have of my childhood include me picking up a book and getting lost in it for hours together, letting the characters and the plot wash over me.  However, once I got older and other things like studies, getting a job became a priority, my love for reading got shoved into corner. Until recently, I had forgotten how much I adored reading. It was my little escape from everything and inadvertently it is what has actually shaped my life the way it is. I am who I
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Gaslighting vs Validating yourself

 Have you ever been a particularly tough situation and said to yourself.. “Oh come on, get over it. Not a big deal,” if you have, yeah thats not really a good thing to do for yourself. That’s precisely what gaslighting looks like my friends.  Gaslighting refers to situation where someone tries to make you question your own reality by manipulating you. Phew! Some opening statement huh? Hey guys, Chai here back yet again with an interesting topic which picked my brain. If you have done the above mentioned then you’re not alone. I have done that and continue to do it in my daily life as a coping mechanism. Even I had not realised until recently that I was gaslighting and manipulating myself. Although with time I can now recognise this pattern of behaviour it still is hard to slip out of it.  If it was another person in the same situation like a friend or a family member or even an acquaintance, I would most likely provide them space to vent, listen to their end of the story and comfort or

People Pleasing tendencies and Respecting boundaries

Hey guys,  its a new day and I’m back with new topic yet again. But first lets come to the important question, did you guys miss me? Just kidding of course you did! I did too, hence why I am back so soon. Well this topic is something I have been going back and forth for a long time because it would mean truly baring myself for a whole lot of you to see. I have always written from experience and being vulnerable in front of an audience is scary! Yet, I write in hopes that I might find people with similar experiences and somewhere find comfort in the fact that at the end of the day I’m not alone in my experience.  All the people pleasers unite!  Sorry, just trying to make light of this situation. Definitely shows humor is my coping mechanism haha! Anyways getting on with the topic, this post is actually inspired by an Instagram video I saw while I was doing my usual 2am scroll. Before you tell me yes, I know I need to sleep more but it’s usually those times where I feel like my mind is a

Change and Coping with it

Hi guys, I am back here after quite a while. This blog is my safe space where I express myself without the fear of being judged. I have always wanted this to be a place where we can have conversations about topics which might be considered uncomfortable in day to day conversation. Mental health is something which I consider very important. Hence, I consider conversations about mental health of utmost importance. So, lets start with me? I won’t lie to you, I am not in the best headspace right now. In fact I haven’t been for a while but we are all getting there right? Plus I believe I write better when I am down in dumps.  Sorry that got a bit dark! But anyways do let me know how you guys have been doing. As always I would like to reiterate that this is a safe space with no judgements!  Coming to what this blog is about, change. I feel like to an extent, change terrifies us all. Be it in school, college, in relationships or professionally. Don’t know if you guys relate but I definitely a

Validation. My thoughts and struggles with it.

Hey guys, its Chai here! I know I have been gone for a while but you see life happens and certain priorities change. But inspiration struck me this one night when I could not sleep and I decided to pin my thoughts on this very notorious word "Validation". So, before I start I would just like to say this is my opinion and understanding of the word and I know people might agree and disagree with my opinion. Either way, please let me know your thoughts as well. I would love to read different point of views from you guys! Lets get started! So, I won't talk about anyone else. I want to talk about me and what validation meant to me and why for the longest time I associated it with my self-esteem and success in life. Oh boy! This is going to get up close and personal but I know I am not alone in this. Being bought up in an Indian family as the academically talented eldest child means there are a lot of expectations from you. These expectations being both academic and behavioral.

The infamous F-word( Its high time we talked about it)

Now, before I freak anyone out or get shouted at for clickbaiting I'd like to clarify that by the infamous F-word I mean Feminism! Bet you didn't think I'd be dropping that f-bomb haha.  Yeah, after alot of contemplation I finally decided to pin down my understanding of feminism and what it actually means to be a feminist. I've realised that lengthy articulate definitions don't hit the spot like simple and heartfelt words do. So, first and foremost I'd like to give you an example to help you grasp the word better. Yup! you got it. I'm pretty sure 99% of people truly desire equality but are afraid of this word which basically means the very same. However, I do understand why this might be the case. We human beings are often afraid of things we don't understand and trust me half of us don't know the true meaning of this word. But here's the funny thing it isn't a new concept at all. It has always existed but it is only now that it

Cicada 3301( A secret Intelligence or a scam?)

It was a regular day on the 4th of July in the year 2012 when the above image was posted on 4chan which is similar to reddit but much less filtered and intense. I've been on reddit before but although I have never been on 4chan, I have heard pretty intense stories about it. Coming back to the current topic, the image was posted anonymously in the random section and the author went by the pseudonym 3301. The author as you can see challenged the users to find the message hidden in the image and a lot of people just considered it as someone trolling in their freetime but little did they know it was about to turn into the biggest scavenger hunt the internet had ever seen. Unlike some people who ignored the image, there were some who within minutes of the image being uploaded found out that the image when opened with a text editor consisted of a string encoded using Caesar Cipher.  TIBERIVS CLAVDIVS CAESAR says “lxxt>33m2mqkyv2gsq3q=w]O2ntk” Someone realized tha